Welcome Back

After a 3 month hiatus, I am officially back!

So, where was I for the past 3 months? I was working. I overwhelmed myself with too many shifts in order to pay for my trip to Europe and had no time for anything except for eating and sleeping. It was a painful couple of months!

Then I went to Europe! I was gone for 6 weeks and if you remember my previous post, then you would see that we went everywhere and did everything! I had the most amazing time and came back with a lot of things crossed off my bucket list. However now, I’ve added even more things to my list!

I have so many things to tell you! So many tips and tricks, and places to visit! I’m so excited to share everything with you! If you follow me on Instagram, thanks for keeping up to date with all my stories and pictures from my trip! (If you don’t you, you can check some of the pictures out at Avenue23blog). I also have some more personal and lifestyle posts lined up as well!

Thanks for standing by, it feels good to be back!

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The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F***

Hey Guys,

I’m coming back with another book review for you! Ok, this book is amazing and I’m going to go ahead and give it 5 stars right now! It’s like you don’t even need to read the review now… but seriously give it a read if you have time! It’s called the Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson.

Alright this book has actually changed my mentality and how I look at things now that I’ve finished it! Mark Manson brings up some super important points in the funniest way! It’s like he addresses this big problem that relates to you and it’s kind of life changing, but you’re also laughing because it’s funny? You’re like oh this is hilarious and is also me and why am I like this?! I would probably starting crying if he wasn’t making me laugh!

Anyways, I learned a lot about myself. I learned that I am part of the group of people that just cares about the small things in life too much! I care about other people’s fights at work, I care about if some stranger yells at me, I care if someone is driving too close to my car, I care about all of these trivial things that don’t matter and shouldn’t be wasting my time on. So now, I’ve started to say F*ck it. It’s not worth my time to care about all of this. If someone doesn’t do their job at work, and leaves me with all this work, I say F*ck it and do my job. If some stranger yells at me (which actually has happened recently), I say F*ck it. None of these problems are in my control. I can’t control how other people react and what they do. I just do what I can and change what I can change, while also not getting worked up about the small things. Whose to say why that stranger yelled at me! I don’t know his story. Maybe he heard bad news about something, maybe he got fired from a job, maybe he hates his job and feels trapped. What I learned from Mark Manson is that sometimes people treat you a certain way because of their own insecurities and that’s what I think about now.

He also helped me with my future. As you heard in recent posts, I want to go to school to be a prop builder for theater productions and for movies eventually. All I’ve heard from people is how much money I’m going to lose going to school and how much I’m going to be poor forever. I shouldn’t bother me, but it creates this fear in you that you didn’t have before! What if nothing comes from it, what if I suck at it, etc. Well how will I ever know if I don’t try! I have this fear of failure, but you could fail at anything in life. You’re always going to have cons to any job you do. However, if the pros outweigh the cons and the struggles are worth it to you, then it’s worth trying! If you can’t except the challenges, then that experience is not worth it for you. Once I read this book, that anxious fear left me, because he’s right. We’ll always have problems, we just have to accept them and embrace them.

Mark Manson talks about a lot of different things like this. He talks about having strong values and gives examples of a weak value of trying to be the most popular at a party or on social media. This is something you can’t control. You can’t force other people to like you and how they feel at a party. And I get this way! Especially now with Instagram’s new algorithm! It sucks to not have people be able to see my pictures, but why is this one of my values at all?

The book is amazing and will make you thing back on your own life and what you can change. It talks about putting yourself out there into the world to get what you want. He talks about feeling emotions, having good values, and losing this sense of entitlement that people sometimes get. He talks about being afraid of success and working hard! I love that he brings up Buddha and talks about accepting that you’re bad at something in order to let yourself go to succeed

His book made me view my life differently. I actually took notes and am trying to practice what he preached!

Thanks for the good book Mark Manson!

Now I’m onto What Alice Forgot by Liane Moriarty.

25

Hey Guys!

I just wanted to say a quick thanks to everyone who wished me a happy birthday today! 🎂

I’m officially 25 today! Yikes, I’m halfway to 50! Scary thought, and a good reminder that life is short! That being said, I did have some anxiety today thinking that! It’s like you blink and it’s already 2018 and you’re 25! It’s a crazy feeling that’s for sure.

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Today, I was feeling anxious because I’m 25 and feel very behind from where a lot of people my age are at! It seems like everyone my age is in a serious relationship/ engaged/ married with their futures already planned out, and that is just not where I’m at! But, now that I’ve had time to think about it, I realize I’ve been anxious for no reason. There is no age where it says you have to be at a certain place, and you definitely cannot compare yourself to others. Everyone’s different and you don’t know their whole story. You’re only seeing the parts of their lives that make you feel bad or anxious. You are putting pressure on yourself because maybe that’s the part of your life where you aren’t confident in.

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For me, I had to self reflect and take a step back and recognize how far I’ve come, where I’m at and what I want. Remind yourself of the positives in your life and if you need to, recite it as obsessively as Aria with her kill list in Game of Thrones- two very different lists mind you. Today, I think back to my degree and the work I put in to get it. I think about the places I’ve travelled to, and different goals I’ve achieved when I thought that I never would! I also think about the failures, but not as negatively now. I realize that my failed relationships, didn’t work out for a reason and they helped to teach me what kind of a person I’m looking for. With each failure, I’ve grown and learned a valuable lesson that have impacted and shaped my opinions and views about my life! Today, I thought about my life and where I’m currently at. I may dislike my job and my current relationship situation- but I’m healthy, happy, and ready to set some future goals! At 25, I can say I know what I want and this is the year of me putting myself out there and taking action!

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Everyone is different. Some people knew way before me what they wanted, and some are like me- just awakening. I should not feel bad for it, and I don’t now. I stayed single to figure out who I am and where I want to go without the influence of someone else. At least now I know if I meet a guy, I will have the same goals and won’t change myself to appease a guy (I find, I change myself for a guy to make it work). It was just something I needed to do. It’s why I also took a year off to work, so I could figure out my next path.

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So, I could panic about my age and getting older, but instead I think it’s more important to celebrate my life right now, and I’m excited for my future! I’ve done so much and come so far, and at the end of the day, age doesn’t matter unless you’re 17 ( in Alberta), 18, or 21 and cannot wait to come of age to go to the bar

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Exercise Update

Hey lovely people,

I wanted to give you guys an update about how life on a diet and exercise is going currently. UM it’s going horribly! I haven’t been following the plan, because the plan IS HARD. It’s hard to not overeat, and to restrict my diet THIS much all at once. It’s even hard to find the time to workout or plan a meal! Today is my first day off in 20 days…. ya that is telling you something right there. I’m also freaking out, because I have 69 days until I go to Mexico! That is not a lot my friends! Time to really get down too it!

Alright so here’s my list of bad things I’ve been doing:

  1. Not Exercising
  2. Drinking TOO much coffee
  3. Not eating enough healthy meals
  4. Have not been glutten free or vegetarian
  5. Not getting enough sleep

On the other hand, here is my list of pros:

  1. When I eat out I drink water and eat as vegetarian as possible
  2.  I have been eating a lot of veggies lately (around 4 cups which is way more than usual), I’ve been snacking on it way more
  3. I’ve been managing my stress a lot better
  4. I have been waking up a lot earlier, but I’m still going to bed too late
  5. I’m drinking more water

So I do have a bit of a plan. Recently I quit 1/4 of my jobs- this one is the most stressful and I realized I don’t really need it! I’ll be done as of the end of the month! This means I will have WAY more time to myself. I’m also going on vacation this week, so that I can do something other than work for a week AND it’ll be a healthy vacation as well (more on this later).

I truly think that the best way to get on track is to meal plan. I haven’t been doing this at all, because I have been so busy. I think if I do this and prep all of my meals that’ll force me to eat healthy and change up my diet. I don’t mind eating healthy- I love it! I just haven’t had the time, so I’m hoping this helps! I feel like time is the biggest thing for me. Once I manage my time better I will have fast easy meals for when I am on the go, I will have more time for exercising, and I think more time to sleep at proper times! Maybe once I’m rested too I will feel more motivated as well!

Here’s hoping! Any advice would be wonderful as well!

Love you guys!

-Erin xo

Lucky Duck

Hi Dear Readers!

Well, you got through Monday! There’s enough motivation for you, am I right?! I’ve had a very long day today, but can’t really complain. I’ve been staring at these beautiful mountains all day today! I’m here for work, so it’s not as fun as I know it could be, but still good!

So, I wanted to talk a bit about bad luck. Lately, it seems like I have an abundance of bad luck and I’m waiting for that moment to arrive where I get on this really great streak of good luck, but it never seems to come.

Within this month I broke my cell phone, got a flat tire (completely destroyed- so new tire Erin’s way!), got a speeding ticket, overbooked myself work wise that I haven’t had a day off in a month or so,  spilt water on my schedule planner so now I have no idea what shifts I work because it is so destroyed, still haven’t gotten paid so I’m currently still very broke- not in debt yet thank god, have been working with the most stubborn individuals, have A TON of work drama between co workers and the job itself, have friend issues, have family issues, have self esteem issues, have anxiety about a job I feel like I’m incapable of doing, and on and on the list goes. It really seems like I’m in a pit of despair right now trying to get out.

What I want to say, is this: bad luck doesn’t exist. There is no such thing as luck. These are a few bad things within recent months that are actually not that bad on the grand scale of things. They will fix themselves up eventually. Some things just come naturally with time, others are just the sudden realization that maybe this isn’t the job or atmosphere that I want to work in. But here’s the thing- and I said this in my last post too- take a step back, re-evaluate. Is something making you happy? Sad? Angry? How can the situation be resolved? Is it something that maybe you actually need to quit, or change sceneries? But remember above all else. It’s just a couple bad days. A couple bad days where that is all you’re focusing on. There was probably so much more going on that you really enjoyed about that day, but you’re not seeing it because something “unlucky” happened.

These are all reminders for myself too. Because, although all of this has happened, there have been very good days too, and things I have loved. What I do when I get in situations like this, is I start writing. It really helps me. I just start with my day, talk about the good and the bad. Next I start writing about how I’m going to make it better. Is there something that I really hate that I need to move on from? Did I create the drama? Am I involved? How can I change it, so this doesn’t happen again in the future? Have I been really emotional lately? Why am I feeling that way- junk food? Not enough exercise? Too much work? Lack of hobbies? The list goes on my friends. Just take a breath and rethink the situation. If it helps, type or write it down like me! It’s why I started the blog! I knew people were going through the same thing as me and thought maybe we can help each other stay motivated!

Happy Monday, hope this helps you feel more motivated to being more happy!

– Erin

Send Help, and Chocolate

Hello Everyone, Happy Monday!

Motivation, wow something that has not been coming easy to me these past few weeks, I feel like all I want to do is sleep 24/7. When I am asleep and I set an alarm to get up 9/10 I just hit snooze and sleep through it! Where has my lack of motivation come from? Since coming back from vacation I’ve really been struggling with motivation. I found that since being back my job seems extra mundane, I can’t seem to shake off the boredom and I am not inspired to workout or cook (and I seriously love to cook).

This time last year I was on an amazing road trip adventure, and was planning Italy, and this year I feel like the summer is just stretching ahead of me into a space of working at a Café. Sigh. I think that’s part of my problem, I don’t have anything exciting to look forward to and since I’m not particularly happy with my position in life, so I don’t feel motivated to get moving.

I’ve been trying to apply for jobs, but I seriously have just not heard anything back. I keep checking my resume to see if my email or phone number are misspelled… it’s that bad guys. Therefore my motivation for actually writing out another 10-20 cover letters is zero. Send help, chocolate, and coffee.

Ok enough with the negativity! Just writing this post has brought my motivation level up a bit, I can do this, WE can do this, let’s all conquer Monday together and get through this!

Good Luck everyone!
Kathleen

Cooking up Something Good

Monday again, and it’s about time to we talk about cooking and meal planning. I think I have a “My Strange Addiction” to eating out. Seriously. Send Help. It’s not because I can’t cook, or don’t have the time to cook, I just seriously love going out to restaurants and cafes and spending all of my time (and money) there.

My favourite meal is brunch, I love getting up late and still being able to eat breakfast food at noon. Unfortunately I work every weekend, so I don’t get to have cool hip brunch dates very often. Maybe that’s why I jump at the chance to eat out? (or at least that’s what I’m telling myself- pretty weak excuse if you ask me)

I’m on a pretty tight budget (I can get my weekly shops to under $40), so unfortunately a lot of my income is spent feeding my addiction. Do you ever have those day where you think “Wow if I hadn’t spent all that money on ____ I’d have so much extra money”? That’s me every pay period with my restaurant recipes. But oddly at the same time I don’t regret it. Eating out provides the opportunity to spend time with friends (where one friend is burdened with all the cooking), you don’t have to clean up, and it’s not time sensitive (aka you can come late and I won’t be angry that dinner was ready on the table).

But in all seriousness I’ve been trying to save up some money (exciting things to come), so I am trying to narrow down my eating out to once or twice a week- and no booze!

I actually really love cooking and so if I just saved all that money and cooked I would not only be able to achieve my goals, but also destress and listen to some great podcasts, but also eat a little healthier!

That’s all for now! Happy cooking!

K

To Veg or Not Veg

Good Morning guys! It’s Monday and today I’d like to talk to you about motivation and diet. Diet, not in the sense of “weight loss”, but how you eat day to day; I’m a vegetarian, have been for ten years, and I have no problem identifying with that label. For the past two years I have been playing with being a vegan. I cook all of my meals vegan, I only drink non-dairy milks in my coffee, but I am hesitant to say I’m a vegan in front of my friends and family. When my boyfriend or family cooks dinner for me, I tell them vegetarian is enough of an accommodation, they don’t have to cook vegan; when I’m working (I work at a patisserie) and there are leftover pastries I eat them.

I can’t seem to figure out where this lack of commitment to veganism comes from so I’ve been spending a lot of time thinking about the connotations of vegan, and veganism. Aside from the obviously (hippies who only eat hemp etc etc we’ve all seen the movies), I think there is an inherent assumption that vegans are going to waste away in front of you. As a vegetarian I’ve had to deal with my fair share of “you’re never going to get enough iron”, “how do you get enough protein”, and back when I ate a lacto-ovo vegetarian diet (eggs and dairy people), my answer was always “Well I eat eggs”, “I eat cheese and dairy”. But actually when I started to think about the treatment of chickens who produce eggs, or cows on dairy farms, they were being treated as terrible as those used for meat. Now when veganism comes up and they ask “But how do you get enough protein?” and I say lentils, I get a blank stare followed by the typical “well that’s not enough protein”. At this point my argument falls apart, I don’t have numbers to crunch in front of these people – I can’t say how much protein is in a steak versus a cup of lentils, all I know is that I’m getting enough protein. I’m not calcium deficient because green leafy vegetable contain calcium, so do almonds (and many other vegan foods), but I don’t have a number to tell you so you can compare it to dairy products.

At work I eat these pastries because I don’t want to miss out. But really miss out on what? Sure they’re super tasty but at the end of the day I would feel so much better if, when I go to bed, I had just left them.

Does anyone else struggle with this type of motivation? I’m so motivated to be a vegan I feel so good in my body and my heart when I eat vegan. But people sure don’t hold back on their opinions when they talk about veganism. I have started telling strangers “oh sorry I’m a vegan”, just to test it out and see what it feels like. News flash, it feels good and no one has challenged me to a “muscle-off” yet. Well it’s the start of a new week so I’ll just keep this vegan train rolling. Whatever goals you have this week, it’s Monday! Start fresh and keep that motivation going!

Good Luck!

K